Are you a stress eater? Stress eating is one of many reasons for eating when not hungry. Eating can dull the edgy discomfort of stress, and food is comforting. But these effects are temporary because they don’t last, and they can add more stress and frustration.
Sure it makes more sense to manage the stressor – but how can you do that? Try stepping back and observing. Becoming aware, without judgment, begins to produce change.
I have a client who is going on a 3 month cruise. She told me that she felt this would be a life changing event for her, and as she said that I could feel the excitement and possibility.
Yet without even pausing, she went on to tell me how stressed she was feeling about deciding what projects she should take to work on. She was up against deadlines to order the supplies she would need and was feeling really pushed. I could pick up all the feelings of stress, overwhelm, and pushing to make it all happen.
I pulled her back to the life changing effect of this cruise. What was it about the cruise that made it feel life changing? What was needed to give more space and opportunity to life changing potential?
As you read this, can you feel how the idea of life changing feels open and spacious? Just taking it in feels pretty delicious. Then notice how you feel when you read the paragraph about all the things she needed to decide and wanted to do. I feel my chest constrict and my breath gets tight.
As my client slowed down and considered what was most important, she decided she wanted to bring in meditation, writing and exercise as ways to stay open to new experiences and possibilities. As she shifted her focus of what was important, she stopped feeling so stressed.
Even if you are not going on a life changing cruise, you can still use the same principle. What is important to you in your life? What are your true priorities? When you are 90, what would make you feel like you had lived your life well? Notice how that feels!
While life certainly is full of stressful situations, a lot of our stress is from our own choices. When we say yes to too many things or set expectations about what we will accomplish we can feel stressed.
When you step back – create a little distance – and pay attention, it makes it easier to see what your choices are. Usually there are more choices than we had realized – something my clients frequently comment on. When there are choices, and you get to choose, it feels better.
Just seeing the choices helps. Even if you choose to continue in the same way, it may feel less stressful because you feel more in control. If you feel less stressed and more in control, you might be less tempted to eat.
Next time you find yourself stressed and opening the refrigerator – stop. Instead of stress eating, or at least before choosing to stress eat, step back and check in. What is important? What can be let go of?
It may take some practice, but just becoming aware can help you make new healthy eating choices.
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Eat well!